I’m not one who would describe herself as selfish or self-centered. I mean, nobody would do that. I used to think I was quite the opposite and I do put others into consideration a lot of times. Even to my own detriment.
Untill I started to notice the little things.
Little things like not wanting a roommate. Nah, that’s not totally selfish.
Little things like really getting irritated by this custom of buying something when travelling for the people at your destination, but only when I’m doing the buying. I absolutely love it when people travel and get me presents. Like my former boss. She spoilt me. She would always get me something, no matter how small. Designer purses, shoes, shawls, jackets.😍
Also connected to the above fact is this little story that made me rethink my view of how selfish I could be. I was travelling back to work after the holidays and my hosts practically packed me with food items, to help me survive😆. The day before, their dad had come in from the East, so we had so much. You know how we buy when we are coming back from the village. Pawpaw, soursops and bananas. Anyway, I was asked to take some and I said no. I don’t like pawpaw and soursop and I was scared the bananas would upset my stomach. I only took items I liked and could eat and trust me, I had no intention whatsoever of sharing the cashew nuts and groundnuts that I had taken.
Meanwhile my friend had called me just before with the “what are you bringing for us?” question and my answer was a firm and not-even-bothered NOTHING! It didn’t even occur to me to maybe, take some of the fruits back with me, just to give my friends.
When I got back, said friend asked again, I said nothing. Then I asked him, “Do you like soursop?” Yes. “Do you like pawpaw?” Yes. “Do bananas upset your stomach when you eat them?” No.🤔🙁😞😟😖
I don’t know what the dictionary definition of selfish is but I know that it involves thinking only of yourself. And not just in the big things but also in the little things.
Think about someone other than yourself. Even in the very little things.