Hello wonderful people! How’s you all? Chilling like me I hope…
Last week I promised that my next article would be about a girlfriend. Well, here it is, it took a lot of effort but you know, it’s me! I deliver.
So this week I’m going to be talking about a girlfriend who is like a sister to me, a girl I trust, a girl I love. And in talking about friends and trust, I have a person who is a reality check, who lets me be me and somebody I can tell everything. Almost everything. Well, the things that really matter (talk about saving the best for last!).
I met this crazy girl -I mean that in a good way- in secondary school and I can’t say for sure when we became friends or when we started ‘rapping’. I just know that by the time I was in SS3, when I thought about my friends, she came in first 3 and that I was going to miss her like mad when I left school.
We used to eat each other’s food and gist about the boys we were crushing hard on, those we were not crushing so hard on and those we didn’t care about. I could trust her not to spill important ‘info’ unless I wanted her to or if it was something which was really not supposed to be kept secret.
Talking about trusting someone depends on what you are trusting the person with. The few times I went to this girl and told her some silly things I had done, she gave me a mini sermon and if it involved someone else, she indirectly prodded me to go and apologize, all without spilling. Having a trustworthy friend should not be all about the telling but also about what the person does with the info. If it’s bad, do they help you stay in the darkness without helping you see the light, even in the privacy you want? That, sweethearts, is not trust. It’s more like aiding and abetting (lol, sorry for the legal terms there).
The next thing about trust is whole hearted sharing. My girlfriend and I have this thing we do on our birthdays. All the credit we get that day as gifts, we spend on each other. Well, almost all of it. And its not because, we expect something in return. One year, I didn’t get much and I called her to tell her how ‘show spoil’ for that day. I half expected her not to call on her birthday the next year. She taught me a valuable lesson. She called.
I am well aware of the fact that some people say we should trust no one, but I do not agree totally. Be prepared for quarrels once in a while. And if you guys are anything like me and my friend, the quarrel won’t last long. Why? Because you’ll surely run into some hot gist that can’t wait. *winks* Plus you can’t truly love without trusting.
Finally, like I always say, get a friend like mine whom you can trust. Who will watch your back, not while you’re robbing a bank however. Or doing something just as silly, like telling a lie. In general, someone whom you can trust to put you back on the right track when you are going off point. There, I think that summarizes it all.
This is supposed to be the last article in my FRIENDS SERIES (sniffing back tears), but I am hopeful that I’ll be meeting some wonderful people as life goes on, people with wonderful qualities that will inspire me to write. Till then, I hope you enjoyed reading about some of the wonderful people in my life. Have a great week!